Cool, Calm & Connected: A Workbook for Parents and Children to Co-regulate, Manage Big Emotions & Build Stronger Bonds

About the Author
Martha B. Straus, PhD, is a professor in the Department of Clinical Psychology at Antioch University New England Graduate School in Keene, New Hampshire and a part-time lecturer in the Program of Professional Education at Smith College for social work. Straus is an international trainer and speaker on topics related to child, adolescent, and family development, attachment, trauma, and psychotherapy. She maintains a private practice in Brattleboro, Vermont where she also provides supervision and consultation to individuals, schools, and social service agencies. Straus graduated with honors from Brown University and received her doctorate in clinical and community psychology from the University of Maryland. She completed her internship at the Yale Child Study Center, where she was a Zigler Fellow in child development and social policy. Straus’ postdoctoral years were spent in the department of psychiatry at Boston Children’s Hospital and Harvard Medical School. She’s the author of numerous articles and seven books including most recently, The Lost Art of Listening (3rd Edition): How Learning to Listen can Improve Relationships, Treating Trauma in Adolescents: Development, Attachment, and the Therapeutic Relationship, and the highly acclaimed No-Talk Therapy for Children and Adolescents. She lives in southern Vermont with her long-time partner, Mike, and their two ancient cats.
Decades of research on human development conclude that our kids learn how to self-soothe only after having plenty of experience with the supportive engagement of a caring adult. They can’t calm down unless we show them how it’s done.
When you learn to become a co-regulator for your child, you get to be the loving parent you aspire to be and have a child who feels better. It’s a win-win!
Over 50 worksheets and interventions will help you to: Understand your triggers and how to manage them Discover your role in escalating conflict Respond more intentionally Make use of “adult time out” Build safe communities of support Learn how to ask for help and apologize Breathe, ground, and regulate together before and during a conflict