Ugly Love: A Survivor’s Story of Narcissistic Abuse (1)

Have you ever felt like a normal discussionturns into him raging at you, while you cower inthe corner, not certain what just happenedto set him off? Have you felt like you would be punished if you stand up for yourself? Have you everbeen told you are imagining things and everyone thinks you're crazy? Have youbeen told no one else could ever love you?Have you been led to believe this is all your fault?If you feel like you are living a fairy taleturned nightmare, then you may be a victim of narcissistic abuse. Abusive relationships with a narcissist follow a specific pattern. There's the initial stage of love bombing, where he's prince charming and you are his princess and soulmate. Then, the debasement starts. The rules start changing. Just whenyou think you know what he wants, the standards change again. Then he isolatesyou. You aren't allowed to see family and friends. If you do, you are punished with silence or rancid accusations. Then,there's the escalation of conversations into turbulent arguments, only for him to apologize and startthe cycle all over again.If you feel hopeless, don't. There is a way out, and your exit plan begins with understanding whatyou are going through and how you endedup there.Narcissism is a spectrum disorder. A person can exhibit a few symptoms of being a narcissist, or enough traits to be diagnosed with the full blown narcissistic personality disorder. There's ambivalence on the partof psychologists and other experts on whether a narcissist can change. So, whatdo you do? Do you stay or do you go? Canyour partner be the one who changes? Laura Charanza is a survivor of forty years of narcissistic abuse. Laura has worked with psychologists, physicians, life coaches and spiritual healers to understand narcissism and a narcissist's victims. With empathy and transparency, lLaura tells, first hand, the story of a typical and toxic relationship with a narcissist. Butunderstand that there isa way out, and here is where your journeyto freedom, peace and true love can begin