Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships

Review
"Darlene Lancer understands the DNA of people with narcissistic personality disorder, including their relationships. Her clinical credentials and personal experience make this a book that is not to be missed if you have a partner with NPD, whether you're staying in the relationship or leaving." ~ Randi Kreger, Author of /Stop Walking on Eggshells
"Darlene Lancer's book will help you regain your sense of self and restore your right to believe in yourself again. It will help you make sense of the nonsensical experiences you have experienced with someone you believe may have either been a narcissist or possessed high narcissistic traits. Thank you, Darlene, for bringing your understanding, wisdom, and compassion to the field of narcissistic abuse recovery." ~ Lisa A. Roman/o Life Coach and Bestselling Author of The Codependency Manifesto
"Darlene Lancer's expertise on narcissism and its impact on relationships is unequalled. She understands the differences in our brains, and has insight that all could benefit from." ~ Hackie Reitman, M.D., /DifferentBrains.org
"Darlene Lancer has created a "must have" manual for those who suffer from the nasty habit of getting into bed with a narcissist. This book will enlighten you about the subtle and seductive methods that have been used to reel you in, and will provide you with the concrete steps to make you "narcissist proof" moving forward, liberating you to finally create the mutually loving relationship you long for." ~ Katherine Woodward Thomas, NYT Bestselling Author of /Calling in "The One"
"Lancer is not only a scholar of codependency and narcissism, she's been a victim of narcissism and healed from it. I'm grateful for her expertise and personal wisdom and highly recommend her books to my clients." ~ Jean 'Shayna' Lester, LMFT, Prison Chaplain, Spiritual Director, and Teacher of Ethics and Sacred Therapy
"I am extremely impressed with this book and highly recommend it to anyone who has a narcissist in their life. Lancer takes the courageous and enlightened perspective that even a relationship with a narcissist can be improved if you can gain sufficient understanding of them and yourself. Instead of demonizing narcissists, Lancer focuses on changing the relationship dynamics, offering hope and healing for anyone dealing with a narcissist." ~ Beverly Engel, Author of /Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing from the Shame You Don't Deserve
"Lancer has written an insightful and comprehensive book that is transformative for loved ones of narcissists. Like her books on shame and codependency, she remarkably breaks down deep psychological concepts into empathetic and practical strategies for anyone wanting to improve their relationship and/or decide whether to leave." ~ Sherry Gaba, LCSW, Author of /Love Smacked /and host of /The Fix Podcast
Do you feel trapped between your love and your pain, long for peace but feel exhausted, belittled, and confused by a narcissist?
If you're in an abusive relationship and either don't want to leave or are having difficulty doing so, Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist is for you.
It's insightful, researched, and empathetic. The core problem is that narcissists prioritize power and sacrifice the relationship to get it, while their partners prioritize the relationship and sacrifice themselves to keep it. Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist offers hope and can help you restore your self-esteem and rebalance power in an abusive or narcissistic relationship. It includes an in-depth analysis of the relationship, Essential Tools for Improving and Leaving it, how to make changes, and how to assess its prognosis. It will help you leave if that's what you choose.
This workbook is packed with healing exercises, checklists, and many suggestions, including a strategic step-by-step plan with scripts to confront abuse and get your needs met. You will reclaim yourself and improve your relationship, whether the narcissist is your